There is beauty in being single.

Sunset

What is my life being single? How does it translate to my everyday mundane life constructs? Why did I chose this life? These are the sort of questions that I get most of the time. I could lie and say because I did not want to become just another member of society participating in building this social framework of family and that I just wanted to be an individual in order to justify my current state. No, in fact I did not dream of being alone, I also wanted what everyone wanted: a nice wedding, a great husband, beautiful kids, things that society and biology intended me to have and to do. However, my life took a different path from my contemporary female friends. I was the one who never walked down the aisle, the one who never got to wear a white gown, never had to be in a delivery room and never have to drop off kids in school. That's not me. I cannot put myself in that context because that is not what my life is about. What I am though, is a single person with a dog! So what's the upsides to this?

Well, the biggest and most significant really is having FREE time. The liberty to do whatever I want in whatever timeframe I wish to do. I can decide on spending my time in traveling, see places, self- improvement, higher education, career moves or just chill at home, binge watch Netflix and Youtube, play with my dog all day, pick up a new hobby etc.  I could go on and on, the things I can do out there are endless.

Independent decisions. Now, when i t comes to decisions whether it is life-changing or trivial things I can make those decisions on my own accord. Granted I still need input from friends or family to weigh things like on important but messy dilemmas and not so much on what size of coffee should I get, the main things is there is no pressure from the outside, ultimately the decision is mine and the only pressure  I feel is the one I give myself.

Financial Independence. Ok not that kind of "financial independence" I still have to work and I'm lucky enough to have a stable and well-paying job that allows me to survive on my own. In reality , the difference in expenditures of a single person compared to a family of four is really noteworthy. Have you ever heard you're married friends complain how expensive it is to have kids? I can do with my money what I want. If I chose to be responsible about it like maybe investing it in stocks, mutual funds, real estate I definitely can (If I can afford it.) or be lose with it as well, I can  also definitely buy those luxury bags or expensive shoes if I want (again, If I can afford), without having to ask permission from somebody else.

Of course, it is not a perfect life. There are so many downsides to it as well. But from the way I see I can either cower away or celebrate what I have and don't have. Life is really not fair. Yes, I may have a different circumstance  apart from the rest but it is a good life just the same.